Would you please give some advice on a work situation?

Question

I just started a new job which I really like. There is one problem, a big one. One of the partners is extremely demanding, no one really wants to work with her. She causes extreme anxiety and stress to people when she's around. People who work with her dont seem even get their breaks or a proper lunch and act as if they are high strung on drugs. I hear that Im not the only one feeling this way. I feel as if Ive been set up with her because no one else will work with her. Since Im new, I feel a little hesitant to have a say, however, one of the partners who I really like asked me if I was happy w/ the decision and I said I prefer for things to stay the way they were. He said lets see how it works out..Each partner of the company already has someone to help them so I get to be stuck with her because no one else will help her. I really like the other partner, but he already has someone. Should I offer to see if they could switch her schedule with me. .
I'm realizing now that stress and anxiety is not caused on our own, it comes from someone. In this case, she's bringing it in my life. I cannot afford to have this now. Ive been around to be many toxic people before who were extremely harmful to me. Im seeing myself bringing the stress from her, home to me. He told me that everyone was very happy with me and he hopes that I decide to stay.

What should I do ?

Answer 1

Hi Rosalinda



People in a Toxic environment will have eventually have the life blood out drained out of them!



If one of the partners is the root cause, it is unlikely you or anyone else can change it.



Consider a change to a new job with a positive environment.



All the Best Greg

www.resume-writing-success.com

Answer 2

Based only on the information you have here, this is the approach I would take and why. It appears you are well liked by other partners and they do value you. I would suggest you talk to the partner telling them the situation you and others are under with this one partner. All of you get together to discuss how best to handle and address the situation. It is not for you all to gang up on the partner but for all of you to provide constructive input to share with the difficult partner. Who delivers the message you all will have to determine if it comes from one, a couple, or not at all. Who ever is chosen to deliver the message all the rest need to be on the same page and support the lamb/s. What you all want to address is how the difficult partner can better interact with the rest of the team and make all more efficient and productive. This may mean short planning sessions, assigning work across teams, allowing those assigned the work the ability to provide feedback on the need for additional help in order to make a deadline. This also may mean an awareness class for how to treat people to get the best performance. What you really need to focus on to start with is to get the other partners to see there is a problem.



If this doesn't work or nobody else is on board then you have openly told management of the problem and done your best to work through the issue properly. Then if the situation comes up again you will easily have the right to say something on your own as long as you say it respectfully by framing your statement with the issue, the problem it causes you and others, and how it could be better handled in the future by this partner. I hope this helps and wish you all the best in working through this situation. Hopefully the other partners will get on board. Good luck

Answer 3

I like to work with such a Boss as I have had been 12 years in the past - the most tight and hurried schedule. It was a time to forget the whole life problems and involve in active production. I hope, if there are several bosses like this. (If no objection, pls send me a sms introduction so as to apply for the job)

The birds require two wings to keep the balance. A boss of the said nature has a good talent in the productive side. The 2nd factor is the characteristic - ceaselessly orderings, and questioning.

(Even if the salt is less in the pudding, Who, why, when etc., a fifteen questions). But, it is a natural tendency of certain people like when the Police Uniform is put on, everyone likes to shout two filthy worlds. But, the background is plain and sincere and straight forward to the subject.

Such people are also aware of the difficulties for carrying out the works and lame excuses would not entertain.

This is general applicable to my experience. However, if the performance of the assistant is good, they would do any favour to their best possible way.

Besides every employment, every work, every obedience are having its own problems that are to be pondered. This is the employee attitude. Neither the work a Managerial cadre is so easy to deal with clients. Besides, there are innumerable labour laws in this country, but not a single Employer Law, which also has to take care of by the Boss.

Mutual understanding is the best certificate and it takes its own time to be crtified. Still employment has its draw backs such as annual increment, bonus, promotion, etc., etc., which are depending upon the interest of the direct and indirect superior

Answer 4

Nothing happens by chance - you are presented with this situation to learn about yourself in relating to stress - it is whether you can cope with the pressure of being around people who are demanding of your time and commitment - it is about giving that person leverage to work through any given circumstance - don't feel the poor me attitude I'm new to all this drama - you'll come unstuck at the nearest hurdle - make the right impression - what is the big deal should you miss lunch once in awhile - no big deal there - you are relatively young - you need to buck your ideas up and rise to the challenge of this business relationship - you should not bow out of this situation as you are put in this situation to see if you can deal amicably with this work colleague and resolve any issues you feel are relevant don't fudge the issue be honest with this person but give of your best don't hold back - stop making excuses and get a life - everyone likes success be positive that this is part of your learning curve and eventually you will be appreciated for your contribution - stay with this - is my advise - don't make comparisons big mistake - keep learning from life - that is best you can do - remember all relationships are mirrors.

Answer 5

Tiger:

I know this probably is not going to be the best advice to hear right now but... you have to be proactive in a situation like this. You should be a partner with this stressful person and be determined and persistent not to let her bug you. No one can really make you feel a certain way unless you allow them to. Whenever you have to work with her, just think to yourself, " I won't let this person get to me, she doesn't deserve that kind of attention from me!" This is a lot harder than be reactive and letting this person under your skin, but, I promise once you do it you will appreciate yourself and your self esteem a lot more! Good Luck :D

Answer 6

Blessings. Some times it's just a test work with her for a while, then if you cannot take it any longer tell her the truth how you feel that she is stressing you out, that you like your job and you are trying to be stress-free. But you know some times God put people in your life for a reason and he promise he would not put on you , no more that you cannot handle. Maybe you just need to pray for her. I wish that you find peace in the midst of this storm, you are going to be fine.

Answer 7

dear sister...



breathe deeply. realize that everything that comes your way is an opportunity for growth and is a blessing. when your boss starts to 'get to you'... think of a duck.



quack quack.



why a duck?









"because no matter how hard it rains... it is just water off of a ducks back."



i don't know if this is helpful to you or not... but breathing is always a good exercise.

just some thoughts. all is a Gift.



good luck.

xx



edit: lol. that is good. a sense of humor can help dispel even the most difficult of situations. :)

Answer 8

Smile at her and enjoy her. If nothing else try to pretend. Then, when you get home, have a nice warm bubble-bath to calm you. As you get higher on seniority and have more expierence ect, you might be able to switch, but for now make the best of what you got.

Answer 9

Are you just stressed out or are you on verge of breakdown?



If you think you can't handle her at all...then you should look for alternative!



But if you think you could just about bear it, then give it a try! You never know you could surprise yourself...by stretching your limits :) It could really be a learning experience!



Reminds me of 'Devil Wears Prada'...

Answer 10

Tiger, I feel for you.



I worked for one of those types of persons.



I stuck it out, and eventually I became a manager in that company and hired the woman, who got stuck in the position, that you now describe.



I left the company of my own free-will, but the good news is....

She, (the new recruit) moved into my office....and is now hiring the next incumbent.



(everything happens for a reason).